Now that you have answered the questionnaire you may proceed to the next part of this adventure by reviewing the letters you have selected above to find your probable temperament and that of your spouse.  The General Description of this temperament is shown below.

Link to other types
Link to negotiations matrix

General Description of the INTJ

• - Manipulates the world of theory as if on a gigantic chess board, always seeking strategies and tactics that have high payoff.
• - Eye for the consequence.
• - Can be ruthless.
• - Seldom counting personal cost .
• - Dealing with reality.
• - Using deductive logic, they use their intuition to grasp coherence.
• - Useful.
• - Creativity.
• - Very single minded at times - this can be a weakness or a strength.
• - They can ignore the points of view and wishes of others.
• - Coherence is the master.
• - Cost effective.
• - Relationships which have psychological distance.
• - Often seem demanding and difficult to satisfy.
• - Independent.
• - Hypersensitive to signals of rejection.
• - Others receive a sense of haste.
• - Vulnerable in the emotional area and may make serious mistakes here.
• - When asked to put something together for the first time - a prototype - he is all the more happy, since he is doing that which is most worthwhile.
• - Abhors unsnarling messes.
• - Things have to make sense.- Avoids redundancy.
• - May have difficulty communicating the details of goals.
• - Prefers not to say anything twice and assumes understanding.
• - Serious.
• - NTs tend to be relatively uninterested in acquiring wealth.
• - Nts usually take family responsibilities seriously.
• - NTs tend not to "own" the behaviors or bodies of their mates.
• - NTs' own errors are those which are inexcusable and unforgivable.

• See themselves as tough-minded and eminently reasonable.
• Can get negotiations done once agreeing to an agenda and a timetable.

Weaknesses of INTJs

• Under stress INTJs may show terrible surges of hurt feelings, devastating loss, become all bottled up with pain.
• It may be painful to meet the spouse.  They may lose emotional control.
• May have trouble sending and receiving signals.
• May be inflexible toward another's agenda and options.
• Too quick to make decisions without considering all facts.

How INTJs see themselves

• Task and goal-oriented.
• Will get job done.
• Firm-minded.
• Good planners.
• Rational, not confused by emotions during the negotiations.

How others see an INTJ in negotiations

• Too aloof, unfeeling.
• Afraid to open up in negotiations.
• Spends too much time on fault finding and not solutions.
• Won't consider other person's values.
• Bossy and controlling.
• Has steam roller style.

How INTJs may work positively with other types

• Don't over control agenda for negotiations.
• Acknowledge that spouse may not be as emotionally ready to negotiate as you are.
• Be sure you have investigated facts before making the decision
• Avoid critical tone.
• If needing to vent criticisms, do it in safe place (i.e. with friends) not in negotiations.
• Recognize that negotiations won't fall apart even if don't follow agenda - your need to control may arise from insecurity.
• If need privacy time during negotiations don't be afraid to ask for it.
• Try to smile more.

The information in these links describe how each of these temperaments interacts with the others in the context of divorce negotiations.