Now that you have answered the questionnaire you may proceed to the next part of this adventure by reviewing the letters you have selected above to find your probable temperament and that of your spouse.  The General Description of this temperament is shown below.

Link to other types
Link to negotiations matrix

General Description of the INFP

• - Present a calm, pleasant face to the world.
• - Seem reticent and shy.- Great capacity for caring, but find it hard to show this capacity.
• - IDEALISTIC.
• - Have a profound sense of honor derived from internal values.
• - Often have a subtle and tragic motif running through their lives; tendency to be martyrs.
• - May live a paradox, drawn toward purity and unity but looking over the shoulder at the sullied and desecrated.
• - Atonement for perceived mistakes, yet always internal atonement.
• - Have a gift for interpreting and creating symbols.
• - Adaptable, welcoming new ideas and information.
• - Patient with complicated situations, but impatient with routine details.
• - Their home is their castle; fiercely protective of home and family.
• - "Life is a serious matter."
• - Tend to be easygoing and congenial, preferring to fit in rather than to create waves - so long as they can do so without violating their ideals.
• - Resist being labeled.
• - Strive for self-identity, self-knowledge, and self-definition.
• - Schedules are always subject to change because of others' immediate needs.
• - Avoid discussing issues that they fear may cause disagreement.

Strengths of INFPs

• Open-minded, flexible, adaptable until their dearly held values are trod upon and then they will become angry.
• No need to dominate or even to "win" in negotiations.
• If they care about the outcome, they will work toward success.
• If they can be latched to an ideal outcome, they will work hard.

• Under stress thy become confused, "can't think straight."  They may beome "nit-picky," illogical.
• They may get sidetracked into the psychology of the process, not the outcome.
• They do not address their personal needs very well.
• They have an inner conflict because they do not really believe in divorce.  This may result in there not bringing the energy to negotiations that they would to something they truly believe in.
• Their idealism interferes with getting to hard, pragmatic outcomes that protect their needs.
• They may not be good candidates for the negotiation environment because they do not like to argue.
• Because divorce is contrary to their personal value systems they will have a hard time protecting their worldly goods.
• Provided the INFP becomes committed to the negotiation process they can concentrate and pay attention to detail.
• The INFP might consider it a personal crusade (they might see it as something beyond their personal needs eg as the vanguard of the women's movement.

How INFPs see themselves as negotiators

• Unselfish, empathic, creative and spiritual and idealistic.
• They can sense others distress.

How others see the INFPs as negotiators

• Unrealistic.
• Naive (weak-kneed), out of touch, a pushover.

Negotiating Positively with other types

• They need a lawyer working with them to provide objectivity and to motivate them to closure.
• They need a hard-nosed business backup person to consult with and to bring in if the negotiations heat up.
• They should not negotiate early in the divorce, before the grieving has been done. The INFP should wait to become emotionally disengaged.
• INFPs may need a third party (lawyer, therapist, accountant) to successfully cross the divorcing shoals, especially financial issues.  Parenting issues may be important enough to spark their crusader zeal, but usually not finances.
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The information in these links describe how each of these temperaments interacts with the others in the context of divorce negotiations.