Now that you have answered the questionnaire you may proceed to the next part of this adventure by reviewing the letters you have selected above to find your probable temperament and that of your spouse.  The General Description of this temperament is shown below.

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General Description of the ESFP:

• - Warm and optimistic, often times refusing to recognize gloom and doom.
• - Clever, voluble, charming and open to the environment; often outstanding conversationalists.
• - Fun to be with, a performer.
• - Avoids being alone.
• - Loves excitement.
• - Generous to a fault.
• - Subject to temptations, self-indulgent.
• - LOW tolerance for anxiety.
• - Relies heavily on personal experiences and common sense; not deeply interested in scholastic pursuits, wanting knowledge only    for immediate utility.
• - Gives an impression of being extremely alert, by their realism in accepting whatever exists at the moment can lead them into being    oblivious to differences between quality and quantity of relationships.
• - Focus on the immediate leaves him/her with a low tolerance for procedures, routines, and anything else that stands in the way of    immediate gratification.
• - "Live and Let Live."
• - Ultimate realists in regards to the outer world.
• - Often feels that "no one takes me seriously."
• - Spontaneous and immediate nature.
• - Makes more starts than finishes.
• - Easygoing.

Strengths of ESFPs

• Strong common sense.
• Natural negotiators due to easy going and accepting style of interacting.
• Good problem solver, but very focused on present.  Needs to consider the future.

Weaknesses of ESFPs

• May have difficulty protecting their personal rights especially against a strong TJ type.
• Have to be careful:  "Nice guys finish last."
• Should not concentrate so much on the present; need to see to the future.
• May not be objective, especially when feelings get out-of-control.
• Under stress ESFPs may feel that everything is awful, doomed.  They may feel a sense of failure, become sick with stress and have nightmares.
• These people don't want to read this stuff, yet ESFPs need to study negotiating techniques more than most.
• ESFPs may not present negotiation solutions in an acceptably systematic and logical way.
• They may not take the time to read legal information necessary to be an effective negotiator (they dislike theory).
• ESFPs need to take the legal information on a case seriously.
• ESFPs are in danger of "giving away the store," or ending up in trial.

How ESFPs See Themselves.

• They may see themselves as capable, efficient, practical and as good problem solvers.
• They stay in the present and focus on realities of today and do not waste time on future events that may not happen.
• (See themselves) as being effective but fair at the negotiation table.

How others See ESFPs at the negotiation table

• They may not be following the rules.
• They are not interested in legal issues (niceties) - only look at equity (fairness).
• ESFPs may have trouble getting to the bargaining table because they don't take bargaining seriously.
• They may be unwilling to try new approaches, as they prefer to stay on a familiar, well-worn path.

How ESFPs Can Negotiate Positively with other types

• By not taking what is said too personally.

The information in these links describe how each of these temperaments interacts with the others in the context of divorce negotiations.