Now that you have answered the questionnaire you may proceed to the next part of this adventure by reviewing the letters you have selected above to find your probable temperament and that of your spouse.  The General Description of this temperament is shown below.

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Link to negotiations matrix

General description of ENTJs:

• - In charge.
• - Strong personality and will.
• - An eye for long-term strategies and their derivative tactics, logistics, and consequences.
• - Enjoys setting up rules, regulations, and procedures.
• - Technical knowhow (including managerial technology).
• - Uses intellect to figure out complexities
• - Not interested in maintenance or in consolidation
• - Abhors unsnarling messes
• - Adamant, and stands on principles against all antagonists, no  matter what the price.
• - Difficulty communicating the details of goals and the plans to reach them.
• - Tendency to avoid redundancy.
• - Reticent to express appreciation.
• - On possibility:  what exists presently can be changed, as it should be, since it is a mere remnant of the past.
• - Often allows someone else to take over execution and construction.
• - Intellectually oriented.
• - Thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving.
• - Expects a great deal.
• - Is responsive to the new ideas of colleagues and enthusiastic about own ideas.
• - Does not thrive on conflict at a personal level.  Does enjoy intellectual dispute, but finds quarreling destructive.
• - Very high need for control.
• - Confrontation, arguing, and engaging with one another in the name of learning.  The ENTJ starts with the basic assumption that he or she is right and must be proven wrong.
• - Audacity required.
• - Profound admiration and respect for whoever was strong enough to prevail, as well as gratitude and respect for the new lesson learned.
• - King (or Queen) of the Mountain.
• - The process of being challenged is as important to the ENTJ as the outcome.
• - Impatience may show itself in the form of a quick temper, and inappropriate complaints over relatively small matters.
• - Urgency to move on to bigger and better things.
• - Details and interpersonal skills are simply not the ENTJ's strong suits.
• - ENTJs are especially gifted with language and clarity of thought.
• - Communicators, precise thoughts.
• - May have an arrogant, confrontational manner.
• - Often told they appear angry, even when just enthusiastic about a point.
• - Often bossy and argumentative.
• - They make friends easily, are quick-witted and gregarious, and have strong needs.
• - Some very hostile moments, power struggles.
• - Natural leadership and systems-planning abilities.

Strengths of ENFJs

• Strong logical abilities.
• Good analysis.
• Not upset by interpersonal conflict.
• Firm-minded.
• Needs to have an agenda and a work plan to follow through on.
• Can get to closure and settle up everything.
• Tends to remain satisfied by outcome.

Weaknesses

• When stressed may become angry, hurt, have an awful emotional surging of loss, anguish, sorrow.  May howl in anguish when alone.
• Can hurt other people's feelings without being aware.
• Isn't comfortable with other peoples' feelings.
• Wants to get deal done without paying attention to other people's needs and issues.
• May decide too quickly.

How ENTJs see themselves

• Organized, decisive, dependable, punctual.
• Good at sorting out problems.
• Able to see flaws in other person's analysis.
• Good planner, calm, rational.
• "Ends justify the means."

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How others see ENTJs

• Too controlling of the agenda.
• Controlling or a spoiler "My way or the Highway."
• Very competent.
• "Ends justify the means."
• Rigid, inflexible.
• Won't consider other options.
• Too bossy, possibly overwhelming personality.
• Very strong personality.

How ENTJs can negotiate better with others

• Begin negotiations with points of agreement - identifying areas of agreement and start with those.
• Train self to be better listener, remember others may need to be heard.
• Do not criticize and if you must, be careful.
• Write it down to see what you are really saying.
• Criticize the conduct, not the person.
• Try to be less oriented towards outcome and be involved in the process.
• Work on defining the problem.
• Agree on what the problem is before leaping to the solution.
• Try an anger management class or sensitivity training.

The information in these links describe how each of these temperaments interacts with the others in the context of divorce negotiations.