Almost the opposite of the verbal enmeshed couple, autistic couples do not communicate very well at all. Because they really do not know what they want from the divorcing process, they cannot work to resolve differences. Often their only expressed goal is, "We want the marriage to end with a minimal amount of conflict", and indeed, their divorces involve very little conflict. Unfortunately, they are so interested in avoiding conflict that they downplay their own personal interests. Even their lawyers and their therapists have a hard time prying out of them what they really want from the divorce. Ironically, after the divorce is over, autistic couples blame their professionals for failing to get them what they wanted! Like the enmeshed couple, they have a lot of homework to do before they are ready to come to the negotiating table.

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