The enmeshed couple presents a good deal of open conflict. These people are highly verbal and articulate their own viewpoints while ignoring their partner's perspective. Often, this couple will write up detailed divorce agreements, only to have them fall through at the very last minute. Even after they have physically separated, they will develop excuses to see each other frequently. Their enmeshment allows them to continue blaming each other for their personal problems. Enmeshed partners often have exaggerated feelings of guilt (or blame), failure and fear, which they unconsciously project onto their partner. They like to get their lawyers involved in the conflict as well! When they get together for personal negotiations, watch out, because the sparks will fly, generating more heat then light. Until they develop insight about why they are perpetuating meaningless conflict, this type of couple should not attempt direct negotiations.

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